The value of mental wellness and positive relationships has never been more apparent.
Tansi.
In today’s fast-paced world, where digital connections often overshadow personal interactions, the value of mental wellness and positive relationships has never been more apparent. As we navigate through a post-pandemic landscape, it’s essential to prioritize our well-being and cultivate meaningful connections with those around us. In this blog post, we’ll explore some insightful strategies and tips for enhancing mental health, nurturing relationships, and embracing gratitude in our daily lives.
The Foundation of Home
At the core of our well-being lies the quality of our relationships, particularly those within our homes. As the saying goes, “When we’re happy at home, we tend to be happier at work.” This sentiment underscores the importance of tending to our personal relationships, whether with our significant other, children, or family members. By prioritizing effective communication and mutual understanding in our homes, we set the stage for positive interactions in all aspects of our lives.
Embracing Personal Growth
Personal growth is an ongoing journey that requires introspection, self-awareness, and a willingness to seek support when needed. Just as I’ve personally benefited from counseling, coaching, and mentorship, I encourage you to explore avenues for personal development that resonate with you. Whether it’s through therapy, self-help books, or engaging in meaningful conversations with trusted confidants, investing in your mental well-being is a proactive step towards becoming the best version of yourself.
The Power of Gratitude
Gratitude is a transformative force that has the power to shift our perspective and enhance our overall sense of well-being. By adopting an attitude of gratitude, we acknowledge the blessings in our lives, no matter how small, and cultivate a mindset of abundance. As I’ve learned from personal experience, focusing on gratitude allows us to attract more positivity into our lives and fosters a deep sense of fulfillment and contentment.
Finding Solitude and Reflection
In our fast-paced world filled with distractions, it’s crucial to carve out time for solitude and reflection. Spending time alone allows us to reconnect with ourselves, process our thoughts and emotions, and gain clarity on our goals and aspirations. Whether through meditation, prayer, or simply quiet contemplation, embracing moments of solitude can be a powerful tool for nurturing our mental well-being and fostering inner peace.
Nurturing Positive Relationships
Positive relationships are a cornerstone of mental wellness and overall happiness. Surrounding ourselves with supportive, uplifting individuals who encourage our growth and well-being can have a profound impact on our lives. However, it’s essential to be discerning about the company we keep and to prioritize relationships that align with our values and aspirations. Sometimes, this may require setting boundaries or distancing ourselves from individuals who drain our energy or detract from our well-being.
Cultivating a Life of Fulfillment
Prioritizing mental wellness and fostering positive relationships are essential components of a fulfilling and meaningful life. By embracing personal growth, practicing gratitude, finding moments of solitude, and nurturing supportive relationships, we can cultivate a sense of inner peace, resilience, and joy.
As we navigate through life’s challenges and uncertainties, let us remember to be grateful for the blessings we have, to cherish the relationships that enrich our lives, and to embrace each day with optimism and purpose.
May you find fulfillment and joy in your journey towards holistic well-being, and may your relationships bring you love, support, and encouragement every step of the way.
Remember, you have the power to shape your destiny and create a life filled with meaning, purpose, and abundance. Embrace the journey, cherish the moments, and always strive to be the best version of yourself.
We’re now living in a post-pandemic world where we went through a very difficult time when we are living in a virtual age, the value of person to personal relationships has greatly increased.
I want to share with you some strategies, some tips that I was taught from elders, from mentors, from coaches, professionals, and I want to hand them over to you to help you on your journey.
There is a saying that when we’re happy at home, we tend to be more happier at work, so what does that mean? That means that our home life in our culture, we see our home fire.
When we tend to that, when we’re making that a priority, our relations with our significant other, our spouse, our husband, our wife, when we make that a priority, how we feel in that relationship, our children feel that.
How we feel in that relationship, our co-workers will feel that.
Whatever’s happening at home, this is number one relationship we have to work on is everything that happens behind the scenes.
I always tell people I’m very open and honest about this.
I’ve had personal counseling.
I’ve had relationship counseling.
I’ve had one-on-one coaches, masterminds and so on.
I continually seek help to help myself, my mental well-being so I can be there as a husband, as a dad to my children, and as a role model, as a leader, to people out there that are looking for me for guidance, for inspiration and so on.
I try to be that person, but in order to be that person, I always have to work on myself.
I have to work on my mental well-being, I have to work on my relationships at home.
In order for that to be possible, to give the world your service, your gift, and so on, we have to make the home life a priority.
And we do that by effectively communicating our feelings, our thoughts, our ideas with our loved one, especially at home.
That will manifest that relationship you have at home, will manifest to your kids, to your work life, to your friends, your family members, and to strangers.
As you continually work on yourself, one thing that will happen is that people will be like, “Wow, that person feels good to be around.
That person, I love being in the presence of that person.
There’s something about that person.
I love their energy.” This happens as a result of working on yourself behind the scenes, your relationship with your people that are close to you.
Some people, you may be by yourself.
That’s the most important.
That’s where it starts is yourself, how you talk to yourself, how you work on your mindset and so on.
That carries over into your relationship with who you choose to live your life with.
If you have children, they’re the legacy of that.
And so it’s important that we look within ourselves, we check our mental health.
We become better than the person that we were 10 years ago, five years ago, yesterday, and so on.
It’s okay to ask for help.
It’s okay to say that, “You know what? Today I’m just not a hundred percent right now.
My head’s a little clouded.
I’m not thinking straight.” It’s okay to have days like that.
That’s part of being human.
We’re not always going to be on the ball.
We’re not always going to be sharp, but the more we take responsibility for how we feel, how our actions are, the more we can learn at a faster rate to improve the next week to come, the next month to come, and so on.
And so let’s talk about how we can sharpen our mindset, how we can sharpen our wellness and how we feel in this present moment.
We’re all going to go through challenges.
We’re all going to go through problems.
What it comes down to is how we respond to life.
I talked to you about in a previous recording about most people react to life, but it’s how you respond to life is what’s going to allow you to grow into who you’re meant to become, how you’re going to take those teachings and use them in a positive way.
It’s a mindset.
It’s developing a more optimistic way of looking at life.
When you look at life that way, you start to become a different person.
Your energy feel around you, starts to be more optimistic.
People are more happy around you, people will open up to you more, and so on.
Now, I want to share it to you a few ideas that I do behind the scenes to help myself.
As time progressed, I had a chance to really understand how I operate.
I talked about in the last recording about knowing yourself, the importance of that.
As you’re working on that area, one of the things that I highly suggest that you really work on is being comfortable being in a room by yourself for an extended period of time, so you can think.
Sometimes people who have gone through a lot of trauma, they have a hard time with that exercise.
They have to be around people, they have to always be talking.
They have to be the life of the party sometimes.
But when it comes down to being by themselves in a room all by themselves and being able to think and use their mind, they struggle with that.
As you work on yourself, you are going to have to make time for these type of exercises to really understand and be comfortable with your own thoughts because your thoughts and how you feel dictate your physical outcomes in the future.
We have to get used to being alone and being able to sit there with our own thoughts and ideas and so on.
And another thing I do in those moments is I pray.
I pray in how I was taught.
Now, this obviously is not a…
I’m not trying to convert anyone to any type of religion or anything, but I do it in how I was taught, and I encourage you in how you are taught to make time to pray.
That’s something that we can all do.
And if you’re not comfortable with that, then meditate.
Take that time to be quiet and to meditate in your own thoughts, to be grateful for everything that you have and to appreciate everything that you have in this moment, all the challenges you’ve had to overcome and to look to the future and what it is that you’re trying to attract into your life.
I would say one of the most hardest and most difficult things for many people to develop over their lifetime is the attitude of gratitude.
Really being thankful for every single thing that they have.
I was told by a mentor one time, they said that the person who complains about everything in their life, the person who is very unhappy, is not a very grateful person.
Because if they were really grateful, they wouldn’t take the time and energy to complain about everything.
They would focus more that energy and shift it into being thankful for a glass of water, being thankful that maybe they have children, being thankful for the roof over their head, being thankful for maybe they have a meal to eat today.
All these little things should be focused on being grateful, being thankful that you have them.
In our culture, that is something we’re always told that tomorrow is not promised.
We have to be thankful for this moment, thankful for the life that you have, that you woke up today, that you have food, water, shelter, and so on.
We should all be thinking that way in a positive way.
People who are more grateful…
This is what I noticed.
People who tend to be more grateful, they seem to get more luckier in life.
They have more things work out for them in the long term.
These are people that I know that they’re the ones getting phone calls, emails of opportunities.
They’re the ones that tend to have the right team set up over time.
The opposite of that is I see people who complain about things all the time and they struggle.
They really struggle.
And sometimes it just takes someone like this on a recording saying, “Hey, I want you to focus on being more grateful.” Next time you’re going to complain, focus on being grateful for something before you think of complaining.
It’s like you’re shifting that mindset around.
That mindset dictates physical outcomes in the future.
If we shift that into focusing on gratitude as opposed to complaining and wishing more other things would happen in our life, we tend to get more luckier with things that compound for the future.
Always be thankful, always be grateful.
Always take the time to be alone with yourself and your thoughts, your ideas, to pray, to meditate and so on.
In my culture, we smudge all the time.
We always use sweet grass, sage, and so on.
That’s how we pray.
And so in my practice, that’s what I use.
That’s what my personal belief.
I’m not telling everyone to do that, but that’s what I do.
And it calms myself down into being comfortable, being alone and in alignment with what I truly want with my life, my career and so on.
And being focused on the gratitude, the love, everything that I have around me.
Always being thankful for that because things are not promised tomorrow.
And all we have in this moment is this present moment we have, we have our gifts, we have our talents, and we have our stories.
And we can give those to the world in whatever chosen field of practice we choose to do.
And for me in this moment, I’m giving it through as a keynote speaker, as a online course instructor, teaching you hopefully in this way, in this format.
And hopefully in return you get some good, some value from this.
And you go and use that in a good way in whatever field that you choose to do through the legacy of your co-workers, the strangers that you come across, your children, your relationship with your spouse, and so on.
I wish nothing but the best for you.
And I give you permission to use what you have in a positive way and go in to use that and make this world better because we’re going through a very difficult time as society.
There’s so many different things happening throughout the world such as the climate, and we need people like yourself who are grateful, who are working on themselves, working to become better, to bring their gifts to the world so that we can all make it a win-win for the future.
We can all come together as one.
When we’re happy at home, we tend to be more happier at work.
When we work on our mindset, we tend to be more happier at work.
We tend to be more optimistic because we become more grateful, more humble, having that humility, respect for other people.
And when you have that and you live your life that way, people will start to respect you for having that persona.
They will give you opportunities.
People will respect you in public more.
I see the opposite, very much happening all the time in public events.
People who are very aggressive, very negative.
They try to push their ways through society, and they don’t get very far.
But the person who’s patient, who is grateful, who’s loving, who is kind, they tend to be the ones to find things to work out for themselves and their family, their career, and so on.
And I wish that for you that as you keep moving forward, you make time to check your mental well-being work on those positive relationships.
Because all flows flow into your mindset and your mindset manifests into this physical form, how you see yourself, how you see the world.
And if we see the world as a negative place to live, we’re going to attract negative things in the future.
But if we focus on being grateful, focusing on what we want in a positive way, we have a higher chance of getting that in the future.
Everything’s energy, so we’ve got to watch the energy we put out.
It starts with what goes on up here and the quickest way to influence what goes on up here is to watch who we listen to.
Our friends.
Sometimes they could be positive, sometimes they can be very negative.
Sometimes you have to separate yourself from certain people because they’re too negative.
They hurt you more than they uplift you.
I could tell you many stories of growing through retail, speaking where I’ve had to limit time with certain people, friends, family members are the most difficult because I to protect my own mindset to where I wanted to go.
One of my best friends is going through his journey right now, and I work with him and he tells me his own mother he had to make less time for, because she really affects him in a negative way, discourages him from going after something rather than encourages.
I can’t imagine that.
I can’t imagine having to disown your own mom so that you can go to live the dream that you are meant to live on earth.
There’s tough decisions sometimes that people have to make.
It’s tough when you have to make less time for loved ones because what you’re working towards is important because you’re going to impact a lot of people in a positive way.
You’ve been chosen for that, and I encourage you that as you’re moving down your path to always be grateful, always be thankful.
Take time to be quiet.
Work on those relationships at home, at work, and so on.
You’ll be a more pleasant person to be around, but the best part of all, you will feel good about yourself.
You will feel good about the gifts that you have.
You will feel good about your willingness to give the world your gifts.
In return, you feel fulfilled about everything that you’ve accomplished and how you’re helping this world become better.
It’s through you, through your opportunities, through you living your gift.
Always be thankful.
Always be grateful.
Keep moving forward.
hiy hiy