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Negativity & Forgiving Others on the Fly

Sometimes we have to leave negativity in the past. Sometimes we are told things about this world that we have to leave in the past because the future doesn’t operate that way. Sometimes they’re close relatives, sometimes they’re friends, sometimes they’re coworkers.

I’ve had a chance to work with a lot of people, world-class entrepreneurs, world-class speakers, world-class CEOs, there’s one thing in common. In order to get somewhere, in order to achieve a certain different level that you’re trying to achieve, you have to change. And you have to learn accordingly. You have to leave negativity in the past. You have to forgive, you have to work on yourself.

My Kookum didn’t speak English, she only spoke Cree. So we’d have to speak in broken Cree and English to converse with each other because I wasn’t fluent back then. And one of the things I noticed that she would do is she was a very highly gifted person. What I mean by this is sometimes people will come into your life and they’ll gravitate towards you. They want to be around your presence as there’s an energy about you. Some call them healers, doctors, medical professionals. In our culture, we have the same people. I didn’t know Kookum was one of them.

People came off the reserve road, went to her place, she would stop everything she was doing, give them tea, whatever food that she had, she would feed them and she’d sit there across the table from them and listen to them. They would talk to her. All she would do is nod, listen, listen. She wouldn’t say much. And I noticed as a kid, six years old, playing in the living room. I used to overhear the conversations and I realized like a lot of these people were going through things. They were going through a lot of challenges. And I used to ask myself, why does she put herself through this?

Until 20 years in the future something happened. I had my clothing company in Saskatoon. I have my own retail stores, I’m behind the till. I have people coming off the street in the mall coming to buy stuff from us. I have people who are positive. I have people that are going through stuff coming to buy and they start talking and suddenly, it hit me, light bulb moment. She was trying to teach me to forgive people the moment they walk through a door and they come to see you. She was trying to help me to forgive people the moment they walk through the door. She was trying to help me forgive people on the fly.

Acknowledging the Weight of Negativity

Before we can embark on the journey of shedding negativity, it’s essential to acknowledge its presence and impact on our lives. Negative thoughts and experiences can cling to us like a heavy cloak, affecting our mental and emotional well-being. It’s crucial to recognize that carrying this burden serves no purpose other than to hinder our growth and happiness.

Embracing Self-Compassion

The first step toward leaving negativity behind is to practice self-compassion. Understand that everyone makes mistakes and faces challenges. Instead of dwelling on past shortcomings, acknowledge them with kindness and learn from them. Treat yourself as you would a dear friend—with empathy and understanding.

Reflecting on Lessons Learned

Negativity often arises from the belief that mistakes define us. However, each misstep is an opportunity for growth and learning. Reflect on your past experiences, not as failures, but as valuable lessons that have shaped you into the resilient person you are today. By extracting wisdom from your challenges, you empower yourself to move forward with newfound strength and resilience.

Cultivating a Positive Mindset

Leaving negativity in the past requires a shift in mindset. Embrace positivity by consciously choosing to focus on the good in every situation. Replace self-criticism with self-affirmation, and train your mind to see challenges as opportunities for growth. Adopting a positive mindset is a continuous practice that, over time, becomes a powerful force for transformation.

Surrounding Yourself with Positivity

Our environment plays a significant role in shaping our outlook on life. Take inventory of your surroundings, both physical and social. Surround yourself with people who uplift and inspire you. Create spaces that radiate positivity, whether it’s through uplifting decor, soothing colors, or a clutter-free environment. A positive external environment can have a profound impact on your internal well-being.

Letting Go of Grudges

Harboring resentment and holding onto grudges can be a significant source of negativity. Whether directed towards others or yourself, these emotions act as anchors, preventing you from sailing freely into a brighter future. Practice forgiveness, not as a gift to others, but as a gift to yourself. By releasing the grip of resentment, you open up space for peace and positivity to flourish.

Nurturing Self-Care Practices

Taking care of your physical, mental, and emotional well-being is a fundamental aspect of leaving negativity behind. Incorporate self-care practices into your daily routine, whether it’s through exercise, meditation, or simply taking time for activities that bring you joy. By prioritizing self-care, you fortify yourself against the onslaught of negativity, creating a resilient foundation for a positive future.

Setting Intentions for the Future

As you leave negativity in the past, it’s essential to set intentions for the future. Define your goals and aspirations, both big and small. By focusing on a positive vision for what lies ahead, you redirect your energy towards constructive endeavors. Intentions act as a guiding light, illuminating the path to a fulfilling and positive future.

Seeking Support and Connection

Leaving negativity behind is not a solitary journey. Seek support from friends, family, or a mentor who can provide guidance and encouragement. Share your aspirations and challenges with those who genuinely care about your well-being. Connection with others creates a support system that bolsters your efforts and reinforces the positive changes you’re making in your life.

Embracing the Present Moment

The present moment is a powerful antidote to negativity. Practice mindfulness by immersing yourself in the here and now. Let go of the past and release the grip of worry about the future. Embracing the present moment allows you to experience life fully and appreciate the beauty that surrounds you.


Leaving negativity in the past is a transformative journey that requires self-reflection, intentionality, and a commitment to positive change. By acknowledging the weight of negativity, embracing self-compassion, reflecting on lessons learned, cultivating a positive mindset, and surrounding yourself with positivity, you pave the way for a brighter future. Letting go of grudges is the cornerstone of breaking negativity.  We need to forgive others on the fly.


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